Archive for March, 2010

Parxting

Parxting texting at the park; also known as a way to stay sane as a mom or dad; yours truly coined this one while “parxting” my friend in Seattle, Jill Gross. She’s a great psychotherapist¬† in Seattle if you ever need one, btw!

I used to complain about “cell phone moms.” How they never paid attention, never played with their kids, were always on the phone at the park. Then my kids passed the age where I needed to be hands on. They were happy playing and making their own friends at the park. I was (and am) still available should they need me but alot of the time I found myself just sitting around. Can anyone say boredom? So that’s why all those moms were on the phone!

The ideal is to have a friend (or lots of friends) join you. But what do you do sitting at the park if you’re alone? Here are some ideas for you.

  • Read a book
  • Drag your quilting or knitting with you
  • Take a notebook and write in it (yep, like actual hand writing . . .). Plan your world domination or at least how to escape the kiddos for a night to yourself.
  • Call a friend (yep, on that cell phone I used to complain about!)
  • Call their dad for some uninterrupted chat time.
  • Exercise! You can do some laps around the park or do lots of exercises with the actual playground equipment.
  • Do some Yoga
  • As long as we’re talking about activity, play chase with your kids. That burns off some calories.
  • Or . . . the ultimate entertainment . . . parxting :)!
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It gets easier

Recently I was having lunch with some women who are slightly older than I am. Their kids were teenagers or grown. They were remembering how hard it was when their children were small and they were trying to work part-time. How childcare was always an issue – who, how much, when, was it worth it.

One of them turned to me and said directly, “it gets easier. It gets a lot easier.”

Sometimes you need to hear this every day during motherhood. Like during those first six weeks after a baby is born. If you can make it to six weeks, it gets easier. Then six months. Six years old is a breeze compared to six weeks old (16 is apparently a different story).

At some point, motherhood does get easier and you need to hear it less. But it’s nice to keep it close, to say it in your head or even to say it out loud when you need to. It gets easier. Say it now. See how it feels and then keep it in your pocket for when you need to pull it out.